CHILDREN & FRIENDSHIPS
Parents play a key role in helping children build friendships
with others, which provides the framework for a happy childhood.
They set up play dates, drive kids to social functions,
supervise activities, and in general set up the social
environment. The parent’s role changes with each age and stage
of development. Preschoolers are learning that is pays to share
toys and to work together. It’s fun having friends—they help
you build sandcastles, laugh with you, and play games with you.
Social opportunities are generally plentiful during the
preschool years as children join groups outside their homes and
neighborhoods.
INFANTS
Parents are their baby’s favorite playmates. Babies are busy
building…
TODDLERS
Parents are the peacekeepers when toddlers play, because at this
age, a watchful eye is always needed. Cooperating with others,
sharing, …
PRESCHOOLERS
Parents are the social directors for this
busy group. Preschoolers are moving away from parents, often
preferring to play with other children; but they still need lots
of adult supervision, and mediation. Cooperative behavior is
beginning to make more sense.
SCHOOLAGERS
Parents listen carefully and help with conflict resolution. At
this age, children must learn to work through more complex
social issues with their friends. A strong sense of what is fair
and what is not fair is developing. They benefit from
activities that are not always competitive, but they’re more
interested in playing sports and group…
It may be helpful to remember your own childhood friends. Are
some of them still in your life? Did you need help with a
bully? Did you prefer the friendship of one or two close
friends, or did you enjoy a wide circle of friends? Sometimes
reflecting on what worked and didn’t work in our own lives
provides insights into helping our children in this very
important part of growing up. |
THE POWER OF ENCOURAGEMENT
Children are constantly forming beliefs about their self-worth.
And parents as a child’s first teacher are constantly giving
them clues. Encouragement is powerful in building a positive
self-image in children. It’s not based on competition or
comparison, but on effort and improvement. All of us benefit
from encouragement every day. The idea is not to pile on but to
be genuine and specific. Giving encouragement is a learned
skill. Saying, “You did an amazing job with your baby brother
when he was crying” is specific and genuinely felt. But words
such as “awesome,” “excellent,” or “I love you” carry weight as
well.
BUILD VOCABULARY:
PLAY THE WHAT-IF GAME
Children acquire language faster during the first five years of
life than at any other time in their development. What a great
opportunity to ask questions that require more than just a yes
or no answer. These questions also require a little creative
thinking!
What-if…?
*…you wore your pajamas all day?
*…the whole world was blue?
*…you were a koala bear?
*…there were no books to read?
*…zebras could paint?
Make a clean car litterbag from a paper lunch bag or recycled
plastic newspaper bag.
Take a look at information to help kids stay at a healthy
weight:
Website:
www.wecan.nhlbl.gov
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